Are You Working Toward Leaving a Legacy?
Are you working toward leaving a legacy? As I am writing this, I am on my way back from Harvard. I went overnight with my mother to meet some “Wurf Scholars.” What, you ask, is a Wurf Scholar? (At least I hope you asked.) They are special scholarships for people in...
What are You Tolerating?
What do you see when you look up from working at your desk? I sit at one end of a table and behind the other end of the table is a large three-section window. It is great. Whenever I pause or need to think, I do so looking out at a vista of lovely green trees with a...
Are You Maximizing Your Potential and Living a Fully Realized Life?
I wrote this while flying back from London where I had been visiting my brother and nephew in 2016. It was my mother’s wish for her birthday (a significant one!) to travel to England to visit her grandson at school. My nephew attends the boarding school Eton outside...
Time Management is a Lie, Quick Version
Time management is a lie. We can't manage time. What we can manage are the actions we take in the 24 hours we have each day. If we consider these actions and manage them in a way that supports us, everything ultimately works out and the actions we take move our life...
Are You Affected or Afflicted with ADHD?
Sometimes I get emails, comments or calls where a person says they are “afflicted” by ADHD and this really bothers me for a couple of reasons. First there is no question in my mind that ADHD is a disability, I know that as I am someone who is affected by ADHD. Note...
Are You Being Treated “Less Than?”
Quality Over Quantity I didn't have tons of friends growing up. Not uncommon for someone affected by ADHD. It didn't really bother me because I figured I preferred a few really good friends over a lot of casual friends. But the problem with having a small circle of...
Get Away from Excuses and Get Real
Those of us affected by ADHD find ourselves often explaining why we are late or didn't get something done. We believe if we just explain what happened (sometimes even with a little prevarication) everything will be OK. But here's the deal, our excuses are not really...
Know How to Create and Set Margins in Your Life
Know How to Create and Set Margins in Your Life Years ago, I was visiting with my family and mentioned that I thought I might start taking Spanish classes again. I didn't think I was saying anything shocking but apparently I was because the table went silent. Then my...
Editing Yourself
Editing Yourself! Just as one might edit a composition for school, you can edit your stuff. Once my family got so fed up with all the stuff I had that they got out extra big garbage bags and set me to work. 7 bags later we took a photo of me in the midst of all the...
Are You Living an Anticipatory Life?
Are You Living an Anticipatory Life? by Abigail Wurf “Now and Not Now” Psychiatrist and author of such ADHD classics, "Driven to Distraction" and "Delivered from Distraction," Ned Hallowell said at a talk I attended some years ago, that for those affected by ADHD...
Are You Being Treated “Less Than”?
Are You Being Treated "Less Than"? Quality Over Quantity I didn't have tons of friends growing up. Not uncommon for someone affected by ADHD. It didn't really bother me because I figured I preferred a few really good friends over a lot of casual friends. But the...
How to Choose an ADHD Coach
How to Choose an ADHD Coach Just as everyone is an individual, different coaches work in different ways. As mentioned in my post “How to Find an ADHD Coach” you can find a coach through a search on google, ADHD coach specific directories and by referral. Once you have...