ADHD and Procrastination

People affected by ADHD tend to struggle with procrastination. Usually we avoid what we are supposed to be doing by doing something else instead that is either not as urgent or important.  We can become very productive doing other than what we are supposed to be...

ADHD and Managing the Holidays

The holiday season is fast approaching and usually I write an essay about managing the holidays. Mainly about how to deal with seeing family and friends without becoming overwhelmed. Many with ADHD struggle with going home for the holidays. Well this year many are not...

ADHD and Maintaining Friendships

Many people affected with ADHD struggle with maintaining friendships. There can many reasons for this. One of the main ones is we forget to stay in touch. Reciprocity is important in relationships. Often, I hear from my clients that they have few friends and are not...

Mess Causes Stress

It is clear that mess causes stress. A lot of mess is simply unmade decisions. Instead of deciding where something should go or what to do with it you just put it in a pile for later to decide. A lot of times the decision you would make in the moment is the same...

ADHD and the Flip Side

As an ADHD coach I hear a lot about people not getting things done. My clients often share with me how they didn’t get anything done from the last time we spoke. When I push them a little on this it turns out they did get some things done just maybe not everything or...

ADHD and Systems

As an ADHD coach I get a lot of calls from people wanting systems to solve their problems. Systems are great. They help us get things done. Until they don’t. Some might say systems don’t work for people affected by ADHD. That is not true. They work differently. They...

Stop Being Late

Many people affected by ADHD struggle with being on time. I used to struggle with this myself. I was late to everything for years. It began to affect my relationships because people couldn’t count on me to be where I said I would be when I said I would be. One day I...

Forget Normal

I have heard it many times but this week it particularly struck me. Many of my ADHD coaching clients refer to what they do versus what “normal” people do. I cringe each time I hear this. I no longer believe there is a “normal” person around. We all have our problems...

ADHD and Explaining Too Much

People affected with ADHD often explain too much. Instead of giving a direct answer we often like to contextualize what we are about to say because all details seem equally important to us. This may be fine in casual conversation with family and friends but can be...

ADHD: Managing Anger at Ourselves

By the time a potential client contacts me for ADHD coaching they may be frustrated or angry with themselves. They are tired of letting themselves down and letting the people in their life down. At work it may they didn’t start a task in a timely fashion and got the...