How to Sort Papers When You Have Paper Piles Everywhere!
This is for when you have piles of paper everywhere and need a triage method to sort and reduce the paper. The complete version of this method can be found in the Appendix of my book “Forget Perfect: How to Succeed in Your Profession and Personal Life Even if You Have...
To Tell or Not to Tell You Have ADHD
To Tell of Not to Tell, That is the Question!I often get the question of whether or not you should share if you have attention difficulties. I will cut the chase, the answer is preferably not to the general public. Different people have different belief systems when...
Really Listening
I recently heard a TED Talk about listening. As opposed to hearing, real listening involves paying attention to whom your talking to. Appreciating what they are saying. And then follow up summarizing what they have said or asking a question regarding what was said....
Get Specific with Your Goals
As I have been “onboarding” new clients recently, I have been having “What are your goals?” discussion with each of them. One thing that struck me was although, sometimes with prompting, people know what their goals are generally. They haven’t thought past the surface...
Talking Back to Your Inner Critic
A colleague of mine suggested a book called Playing Big. It is about women stepping forward and playing in a bigger arena. I haven’t finished the book yet but was struck by the beginning of the book talking about our “inner critic.” The author put this in the...
How to Be Aware of Your Blindspots!
I was backing out of a parking space in a parking lot and I was about a foot out when loud honking started. I looked and discovered a car also backing out at the same time. Now I had checked my mirrors and luckily I always back out slowly so I was able to stop easily...
Everybody Has Something, You are Not Alone
Often when I am giving a talk, I start with the fact that everybody has something. Some problem, issue, disability or other thing that gets in their way of being as successful as they wish to be. I start with this fact because we can sometimes get “precious” about our...
Managing ADHD, Impulsivity and Money
Many of those affected by ADHD have impulsivity issues. Combining impulsivity and money is a dangerous mix. I have heard stories of spouses with ADHD going out on their general errands for the day and coming home with a new car unexpectedly without any input from...
My Secret Fear
I told one of my clients a secret that I don’t think I have ever shared with anyone. I don’t even think my family is aware of it. Actually to be honest, it is a secret fear, a ridiculous one but none-the-less a very real one to me. Occasionally this client, who has...
How to Get Accommodations at Work Without Telling You Have ADHD
Sometimes to be more successful at our jobs we need a little support but don’t want to reveal we are affected by ADHD. A way to manage this is to tie our requests with increased productivity. Supervisors and bosses love increased productivity. At least most do! To go...
Taking Risks Versus Impulsivity
I used to think that most people affected by ADHD were all risk takers. I think I was confusing risk taking with impulsivity. It is important to learn to take some risks in life because taking risks stretches you and that is important. I think of it in terms of my...
Do You Have Limiting Beliefs?
Do you have limiting beliefs about yourself? Most of us probably do and most of us probably don’t even realize that we do. Limiting beliefs are beliefs that cause us to live at “less than” our true potential.Aside from being an ADHD coach, author and speaker, I fall...